Monday, December 08, 2008

In Memoriam - Dr. N. Yogeswary

When I first heard the news about the landslide in Bukit Antarabangsa which killed, among others, a veterinarian by the name of Dr. Yogeswary, I had hoped that it's not the Dr. Yoges I know.

But it was her, and I am consumed with grief. 

The last time I saw her was last Thursday, when I stopped by her clinic to make an appointment for my cat Pippin. Dr. Yoges was her usual self that day, but I couldn't make the appointment in December as the appointment book was full for the first 2 weeks. The 2nd half of December was not available either as Dr. Yoges and her partner Dr. Chris would be on leave alternately leaving only 1 vet in charge, which is not an ideal situation when performing a scheduled procedure as there would be no one to attend to the walk-ins. January is free, she said, but couldn't set an appointment then because she still hasn't gotten herself a 2009 diary/planner to record it. We laughed about it and I promised to make that appointment with her later.

In hindsight, it's uncanny how she did not plan that far ahead this time. I hate to be someone who would associate a certain behaviour of a deceased person as their own presentiment, but sometimes, you just can't help noticing the oddity of the situation. It's like she knew she is not going to be there in January.

My heart goes out to her family and friends. May she rest in peace.


Dr. N. Yogeswary

9 comments:

pugly said...

So sorry to hear about your vet, Sue. The tragedy is something that shouldn't have happened, yet have happened time & time again. But we never learn, do we?

Kak Teh said...

I am so so sorry. When I read about her shielding her children with her body, I thought that was the ultimate sacrifice of a mother.
res in peace Dr Yoges and condolence to the family.

mekyam said...

sue,

so sorry about this sad loss.

it cuts me up to hear abt her shielding her kids with her body. [kt, did the children survive?]

rip good doctor!

B@bYh|r0Sh| said...

Hi Chris.....for a while I thought I was not able to find anymore updates on Yogeswary. I read about her while I was in Zurich and I prayed and prayed that it wasn't the Yoges I knew. From her picture, then the name and finally her heritage gotten me in such a state that I've started my mourning from that instance.

I've lost contact with her some 22 years ago when I went to Singapore to work. The memories of her came pouring back.

My name is Kitson and the group of our school mates from the St. John's Ambulance (St Michael's Institution Division 5) had the privilege of knowing her through some of Yoges' close friends.

From Zurich, I called some members of our group to find out more information about the funeral as I felt that I had to pay my last respect. But sadly none of us maintained any form of contact with her. I was so lost.

On returning to Singapore on 8th Dec, my Singaporean wife Irene was so determined that I should go to KL and attend her funeral. She already packed up for the whole family including my 2 kids. I searched the internet for any bit of information I can find and finally the latest was that funeral rites had already started.

I've never felt such grief since my dad passed away 25 years ago. The way she died, her last photo on the news will linger in me for years to come. I regretted that I've lost contact with her and how I wish I can view some of her photographs of the 22 years I missed and shared some of her memories of her wedding and her time with her family and friends.

I have to thank you Chris for the most detailed update on her funeral. I've to use my wife's blog to register my comments.

I'll always remember her as pretty, cheerful, warmth, thoughtful and caring. She can be mischievous at times when she and her close friend Hui Shi always communicate in some funny coded language which got me all confused. Her laughter and her smile was infectious. She already dreamt of being a veterinarian then. The sad thing is I never get the chance to call her Doctor Yogeswary.

I would very much like to find Yoges' good friend Hui Shi. If anyone know of her contact pse e-mail me.... kitt28y@yahoo.com.sg

My deepest condolences to her family......

B@bYh|r0Sh| said...

Sorry Typhoon Sue....I accidentally addressed you as Chris...my apologies

Typhoon Sue said...

pugly:
yea. there's this knee-jerk reaction everytime something like this happens, but a few months after that, they'll forget the whole thing and carry on destroying the hills

kakteh:
ye la kakteh, sedih kan?

mekyam:
the kids survive, but their lives are never gonna be the same again without the mother who sacrificed all for them

kitson:
sorry u didn't get the chance to see ur old friend.

Queen Of The House said...

I was looking out my window when the landslide happened (it was hot, the electricity had gone out 15 minutes or so earlier). I heard a sound like fireworks going off, but my husband said it could also be machinegun fire. We thought nothing of it .... it was dark outside and we couldn't see anything. Then I heard someone calling the azan (siapa yang azan pukul 4 pagi ni? I asked my husband), and then the commotion started. First some cars driving down the road, and then people running. Then police cars, bomba, ambulance ..... my husband and my elder son grabbed a camera and a videocam, left our apartment and went to the scene, about 300 meters away. They went to the edge of the landslide - I called them to confirm that it was indeed a landslide. Later on, at the the surau, people started bringing in the injured and the dead. My son said he saw a boy, his neck broken. Then he saw a woman, her body crushed. He was nearby and he saw the woman passed away at the surau. From my apartment nearby, I heard a man wailing. The boy was Dr Yoges' son, the woman was Dr Yoges, and the man, her husband.

I am relieved my apartment block is not affected, although we are not too far away from where it happened. But my heaart goes out to those who lost their loved ones and their homes.

Manal said...

A landslide victory for obama, a landslide tragedy here in malaysia....this bukit antarabangsa has been synonymous to tanah runtuh ever since that highland tower incident.
On the deceased, we say this is like "buang tebiat" or a sudden change in their normal behaviour, but its really awful seeing something like this keep happening in that very place , no gempa bumi, no nothing except that its becoming more n more of a "burial" ground now.

Tumpang lalu sue,
QOTH, some ppl sempat azan? wow, good to know ppl still think of God to help alert ppl around.Berani btul yea ur son tgk mcm2 keadaan org kat situ.

Typhoon Sue said...

QOTH:

so close to the scene, must be terrifying for you no?

I did not know Dr. Yoges on a personal level, but as a vet, I know she was a very capable one. There were times when her kids were at the clinic with her and i saw her as a devoted mother that she was later proven to be. It's so sad. It's been a week and her clinic is still closed. I guess her partner Dr Chris is still stunned by the whole thing.

manal:
It's sad that something like this happens, not once, not twice, but many many times. It's time they actually do something instead of just talk nonsense and pointing fingers at everybody.